Dear Annie: I have been married to "Bob" for 11 years. Once we had our son, "Jack," everything changed. Bob found excuses not to be home, worked all kinds of overtime or had to "go somewhere." I can count on one hand the times he did anything with Jack or was even home on a weekend during our son's first five years. Jack is now 8 and has no real relationship with his father and no desire for one. When he was little and asked where Daddy was, I covered for Bob, but now that Jack is older, he knows what's what. The kid is no dummy. Things continue to get worse. Bob accepts no responsibility for his son. He makes nearly twice my salary, but won't give me a dime toward Jack's clothes, shoes or school supplies, let alone birthday presents, although he wants his name on the gifts. He even tries to get out of paying for groceries and babysitters. Bob pays the mortgage and the taxes. Everything else is my responsibility. I carry Jack on my health insurance. Updated: Wed Feb 19, 2020